I had a wonderful experience recently that perfectly illustrates the concept of exploring your possibilities.  I saw a man 20 feet ahead of me pick something up off the ground and then glance left and right looking for the owner in a way that made it clear he had picked up money and didn't know what to do with it.  I mean who wouldn't say yes if asked "did you drop this money?"

Having caught each other's eyes, I began a conversation with him when I reached him, "so, how much money did you find?"

"20 bucks," he replied.

"Wow!" I replied in amazement, "what will you do with it?"

"I'm not sure.  I was gonna take a bus uptown, but now I may take a cab."

"There's one way to use it!  How about a fancy lunch, or treat yourself to a nicer dinner than you had planned?" I couldn't help but interject some other ideas.

"Well, I feel kind of guilty."

"Yeah, I once found a $5 bill and I gave it to a homeless guy," I informed him.

"That's a great idea, only I don't feel like giving a homeless person 20 bucks."

"Makes sense - you could break it into 20 singles, or four five dollar bills!" I suggested.

"True, and those singles would go a long way at the strip club!" he said, having finally found the possibility that seemed most alive in him at that moment.

With that, he picked up his phone to tell someone about his luck, and I wished him a great day.

What's your unexpected $20 for today?  What kinds of things can you do with this new-found possibility?  When you're stuck making a decision, this is a great way to figure out what choices make you the most excited to find your direction.

When you're at work, is there someone driving you nuts?  Do you find yourself irritated every time you need to speak to them, or their name pops up in your email box?  Start getting curious about that irritation you are feeling. Ask yourself why this person is getting such a reaction from you, and notice your behavior in response to them. 

Now, take a look at what it is you want from this person.  Assuming that you want to keep your current job, do you want to be friends with this person?  Do you just want to make it through the day without spending so much negative energy on them?  Figure it out.  Now you can brainstorm ideas on how you can change your reaction to this person which will, in turn, completely change your relationship to them.

Remember, if you have lots of negative energy cycling through your thoughts and body each day, you're probably helping to manifest the current situation, and feeling pretty depleted every day.  If you change your intention, you can change the energy into something more positive, and invigorate yourself. 

Always keep that positive vision in your mind where you have the successful working relationship you want with this person, so you can take action towards it every day.

If you're struggling to figure out what your purpose in life is, or what you want to do, try thinking about the things you do that seem easy for you.  If you can't think of anything, perhaps your friends sometimes say "how did you do that?  I could never do something like that myself!"

Many times, the things we do with little or no feeling of effort are things we don't think of as skills or accomplishments because, well, it's so easy to do!  We may find great joy in doing them, and then write them off as a hobby or rainy-day activity because we'd never consider doing these activities for money.

Start making a list of the activities you find joy in, and then you can begin thinking about how to make money by doing what you love.

I've noticed that after my clients experience a difficult or emotional moment, and we then journey together to a more positive feeling, they tend to place their hand on a part of their body in this moment of happiness, relief, or celebration.  Most often, it seems to be the heart.

Try noticing, in moments when you are happy, does your hand go to your heart, your head, your gut?  In moments of difficulty, try to recall that "happy space" by placing your hand back on your heart, head,...as a tactile reconnection with your positive feelings.

Get out of a rut by trying something you've never done before!  If you're usual routine is going to work, then coming home and watching TV till you go to sleep, try going to a museum or a movie on your way home.  Maybe you've been itching to go bunjee jumping, or take a trip to another country, make 2008 the year you GO FOR IT! 

Keep it simple - make a goal to do just one new thing, and after you do it - take note of how you FEEL.  Are you inspired, and motivated to do something else?  Are you scared?  Are you uncomfortable?  Once you get in touch with these feelings, they'll help guide you to discovering a new direction for yourself!

Sometimes all it takes to change your outlook on your life is a little self-pampering.  Whether that's a manicure, a massage, a vacation, however it is that you feel most pampered, that one activity for yourself could have a wonderful impact on how you see yourself. 

When you make your to-do lists, it's really easy to write down everything you have to do, or the things that other people need you to do.  How often do you put "pampering myself" on that list?

Try penciling in a little time for yourself on that list.  You might just find a bit more motivation for the other items, and approach them more happily, or even discover they're not all necessary!  Making space in your life for your own needs is important.